For years I struggled with the question “What do I really want from life?” I kept doing what I was doing in my IT career even though I knew I wanted to change because I had no answer for this question. I’ve come across many people who struggle with answering that same question. Here’s my take on why it is so hard for some people to answer.
Our education system teaches us that there is a right answer to every question. Through testing, we are rewarded for being able to recall or calculate the right answers to the questions that are asked. For many questions, this makes sense. Being able to perform a mathematical calculation is critical in building a bridge, for instance. So, we assume that there is a right answer to every question – even the one above.
The problem is though, there is no right answer to this question. Well – not right in the way we have been taught to think of right. There is no formula to apply or some fact to recall here. It’s a different type of right – a right that has no reasons. Answering this question requires using a different technique – one that answers it and then doesn’t look for a reason why. Because I believe, what we truly want just is – there are no reasons for it. And in the logical cause and effect world we live in, where are the right answers backed by evidence, that concept is alien to many of us.